When You Feel Trapped in Your Direct Sales Business

Are you feeling stuck in your business? Maybe like it’s not quite IT, but your hands feel tied about what to do about it? Let’s talk about feeling stuck, understanding why you feel stuck and what to do about it on today’s show.

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How to Handle it When You Feel Stuck or Trapped in Your Direct Sales Company

Since I started sharing my recent journey of change, I have talked and coached with at least a dozen people who are feeling stuck and unhappy for one reason or another.

So, here is my disclaimer – if you are listening and we had a phone conversation, a coaching session or an email exchange about this, I am NOT talking about you and your story.

And, at the same time, know this – you are not alone.

How this often shows up is –

Business stops growing.
You procrastinate.
You believe there aren’t any motivated people any more.
You stop sponsoring people.
You become indifferent and frustrated.
You might even feel hostile about your company.

There is a much deeper issue.

And, by defaulting to the above statements, you are saying – other people have power over me and I can’t have what I want because they are stronger than me.

It seems to be about unmotivated people, but really it’s about your lack of belief….in something.

Products, company or management – something.

Maybe you feel like you’ve climbed the ladder of success and found that it was leaned against the wrong wall. I’ve been there. Built with that turned out to be the wrong company.

But, there are no mistakes. There really aren’t.

We are all on a journey, and we don’t know the path when we start. It’s full of starts, stops and twists and turns. The path can feel very painful at times.

Money, loss of income, friendships, others counting on us, what will people say and so on – it can be even worse in the network marketing “box” than corporate America.

You must slow down to hear the voice of God, which is ALWAYS there, speaking to you. If you can’t quiet your own voice, you won’t hear it.

My own story – things kept being placed in my path. Even 3 years ago.

Mary Kay
PLR content for a blog
Companies sending me products to demo.

Those things were God, or spirit speaking to me, but I had a challenge getting my ego out of the way so I could hear.

What I mean by ego.

Passion vs Routine – what might that feel like?

Where will life lead me when I have a passion and I follow it?

What if you are being guided to serve an audience that needs and wants you? What if you are playing small to remain stuck where you are?

What’s the lesson for you in all of it?

What’s the cost? What’s the payoff?

The cost is in not being truly happy and following your values and passion.

The payoff might be not having to get back in the game and build again; of not having to tell your sponsor, or team, or whatever.

We never want to do something that creates more of a loss than a gain, but there are perceived payoffs and real costs that must be examined.

You are often losing more than you are gaining by staying stuck.

More often than fear of failure, we have a fear of success, and so we continue to attract people into our business who are not really interested or ready. When you think about it – we attract that because WE are not truly interested or ready.

Question – what action or behavior is leaving you feeling stuck, frustrated and unfulfilled?

What do you perceive the payoff to be?

What is the cost?

These are REALLY heavy questions.

Now, what if you chose a different action or behavior – how would that feel?

What would that payoff be?

And the cost?

There is a concept of IT and NOT IT.

It experiences align with our joy, our values and passions.

NOT IT experiences grate against us, deplete us, frustrate us.

So, right now, what is the NOT IT experience for you?

What might the IT experience look like? If you find yourself thinking – I don’t know – go deeper. If you DID know, what would that be?

These can be tough question to ask, but if you will be honest with yourself, you know the answers.

You serve no one, least of all you, by choosing to stay stuck. And, that’s what it is – a choice.

I know, I hear it – the paycheck, the company, the team – it’s all still a choice and you know for yourself how to choose it and not it, to best align with where you want to be.

No one else is choosing for you.

ACTION STEPS

1. Where are you feeling stuck?

2. Why is it NOT IT?

3. What would be it?

4. What action do you commit to in order to create the change you want

5. What will that feel like?

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Good luck in your business

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Until next time – remember this – Hesitation Never Cashed a Check!